My mother is the reason why I became a health coach. For years, I watched her struggle with her self-image, self-esteem and her search for her core strength. She endured so much abuse at the hand of her husband. Her insecurities began when she was a child and she never knew how to stand up for herself.
I would watch her work out in the living room one week and the next week binge on junk food. I had to watch her go through a mastectomy when she was 40 years old and she felt the shame of never replacing the missing breast.
She was often intimidated by me in the sense that I was very outspoken and said what was on my mind way too many times. I often hurt her feelings inadvertently. I felt betrayed by her because I felt that she chose my stepfather over me … but, at the same time I wanted to rescue her from the insecurities and indecisiveness. I have spent my life wanting to empower her.
Now, it is my mission to empower other women.
As I write to honor my mother this Mother’s Day, I remember and celebrate the strengths she possessed that were less apparent. When she was sick the final time at age 47, bedridden and unable to move any extremity except her right arm, she had courage to do what needed to be done. Because she had been a medical caregiver, she knew the steps I would need to do to take care of her and she guided me with a firmness of resolution.
There came a time that my stepfather’s behavior was very destructive to the entire situation. My mother was concerned that my minor sister would be left in his care when she died. He was also very verbally abusive when he was drunk and I had to sleep on the floor by her bed to make sure he didn’t mess with her in the middle of the night.
My mother’s courage shined through when she made the decision to be placed in a nursing home away from him so I could take the kids and get away. She had always feared living in a nursing home because she had worked in several and knew how bad they could get. Yet, even knowing the worse that could happen, she made the choice for her kids.
I believe that if she could have had a coach, she would have found the strength to change certain things inside herself so that her outer life would be better.
Her health would have been better because she would have removed the limiting beliefs surrounding her self-esteem and self-image. This would have led to her making better, stronger choices about eating, exercise, careers and partners. I truly believe that cancer wouldn’t have gotten such a strong hold in her and that she would have finally been the nurse she always wanted to be but didn’t have the courage to do so. She would have found her core “why” to keep her motivated until she reached all of her goals.
But, she didn’t have a life or health coach. She didn’t know how to look inside herself and find what she needed. She stayed overweight, insecure and finally succumbed to a preventable illness.
Don’t let this happen to you. Take a chance and walk down a new path. You won’t be walking it alone.
We want to help you every step of the way.
Happy Mother’s Day Mom. I miss you
With Great Love