Fuel Your Willpower

Have you ever started a “diet” really excited but that excitement only fueled your motivation for a couple of weeks? About the 3rd week, your energy just starts puttering out and you can find all kinds of excuses on why you can’t work your health plan.

Those excuses are reasonable, justifiable and easy to come up with. Excuses are cheaper than a Huddle House cup of coffee. Excuses prevent us from finding our greatness.  Excuses KILL our willpower.

So, how can we fuel our willpower and keep excuses at bay? I am about to reveal the SECRET to fueling your willpower endlessly. Are you ready?

If you want to keep fuel in your willpower, you will NEED to identify your core “why”.

Most women say they want to lose weight for generic reasons like:

  • I want to look thinner.
  • I want to be healthy.
  • I want my girlish figure back.

These reasons provide absolutely NO core motivation opportunities.  They don’t light your fire. They don’t help you in times of extreme stress or adversities.

However, your core “why” will keep you motivated no matter what obstacles you face. Sometimes, our core “why” will be different for each area of our lives and sometimes it will be the same “why”.

It took me a while to find my core “why” for weight loss. When people would talk about looking skinny, I would say there was just more of me to love. When I thought about eating healthy, I claimed my independence and ate junk food because no one could tell me not to.

What changed for me is that I identified that feeling POWERFUL was extremely important to me. I associated power with my military experience. This reminded me of how powerful I felt when I weighed 135lbs and was extremely fit. Then…BOOM! I was extremely motivated. I now hang my dress uniform up in my office to look at all day long. When I work out, I use similar exercises that I used while in the military. I associate everything I can in my weight loss journey with the military. This is my trigger.

This trigger has given me the willpower to turn down Pepsi while having a depression day. Let me repeat that last statement: I turned down a Pepsi when I was suffering from depression one day! I have NEVER done that before.

This trigger actually has me ENJOYING running. I hated running in the military and now I absolutely feel powerful when I do it now. I am using running as a tool to have an OUTWARD goal to accomplish. I am training to run a 5k soon – and a marathon later on. When I run these runs, I will be doing so to raise money for the Wounded Warrior Project (another tie in to the military).

Power is my WHY and I have tapped into triggers to make it happen for me.

You begin to find your core “why” by following the process below:

  1. You need to plan to spend about an hour or two to do this process. Find a quiet hole to hide in where you can reach deeply into yourself without distractions.
  2. Then, think about all the times you actually did what you set out to do – that you actually achieved a goal that you had set.
    1. How did you feel when you did it?
    2. What caused you to follow through?
    3. Write down how you felt and the reasons why you met your goals.
  3. Do you see a pattern forming? Was there a reoccurring reason that made you accomplish your goals?

These patterns reveal the beginning of you understanding your core “why”. Now, you must follow these thoughts to the core.  We are going to use another process to see if we can further identify your core “why”.

  1. Visualize a goal you want to accomplish – let’s use your ideal weight goal. Clearly picture what you would look like when you find your ideal weight. Have that vision planted firmly in your head.
  2. As your visualize, take deep, rhymthmic breaths. In through the nose – out through the mouth. Relax and feel your body just let go.
  3. When you feel extremely relaxed, imagine a wise person walking up to you. You know that this person has every answer you ever needed.
  4. As you are standing there talking to this person, you look exactly like your ideal weight and you ask this person what your “why” was to accomplish this goal. Ask him why you were able to find your ideal weight – what fueled your will power.
  5. Listen. Be prepared to write answers. The answers might come in one word statements. Just free write any thought that comes to you. Take as much time as needed to listen. Don’t rush this.
  6. Review what you have written to identify patterns. Again, the patterns will reveal your core “why”

Once you have an idea of what your core “why” is, you need to figure out ways to trigger it to accomplish your goals. Referring back to my why of power, I figured out my military experience was a trigger and now I use it every opportunity I can to keep me on track. This is important.

If you need any help with this process, please give us a call at 678-791-4131.

With Love,

Mindy Millington

 

 

My Mother…

My mother is the reason why I became a health coach. For years, I watched her struggle with her self-image, self-esteem and her search for her core strength. She endured so much abuse at the hand of her husband. Her insecurities began when she was a child and she never knew how to stand up for herself.

I would watch her work out in the living room one week and the next week binge on junk food. I had to watch her go through a mastectomy when she was 40 years old and she felt the shame of never replacing the missing breast.

She was often intimidated by me in the sense that I was very outspoken and said what was on my mind way too many times. I often hurt her feelings inadvertently. I felt betrayed by her because I felt that she chose my stepfather over me … but, at the same time I wanted to rescue her from the insecurities and indecisiveness.  I have spent my life wanting to empower her.

Now, it is my mission to empower other women.

As I write to honor my mother this Mother’s Day, I remember and celebrate the strengths she possessed that were less apparent. When she was sick the final time at age 47, bedridden and unable to move any extremity except her right arm, she had courage to do what needed to be done. Because she had been a medical caregiver, she knew the steps I would need to do to take care of her and she guided me with a firmness of resolution.

There came a time that my stepfather’s behavior was very destructive to the entire situation. My mother was concerned that my minor sister would be left in his care when she died. He was also very verbally abusive when he was drunk and I had to sleep on the floor by her bed to make sure he didn’t mess with her in the middle of the night.

My mother’s courage shined through when she made the decision to be placed in a nursing home away from him so I could take the kids and get away. She had always feared living in a nursing home because she had worked in several and knew how bad they could get. Yet, even knowing the worse that could happen, she made the choice for her kids.

I believe that if she could have had a coach, she would have found the strength to change certain things inside herself so that her outer life would be better.

Her health would have been better because she would have removed the limiting beliefs surrounding her self-esteem and self-image. This would have led to her making better, stronger choices about eating, exercise, careers and partners. I truly believe that cancer wouldn’t have gotten such a strong hold in her and that she would have finally been the nurse she always wanted to be but didn’t have the courage to do so. She would have found her core “why” to keep her motivated until she reached all of her goals.

But, she didn’t have a life or health coach. She didn’t know how to look inside herself and find what she needed. She stayed overweight, insecure and finally succumbed to a preventable illness.

Don’t let this happen to you. Take a chance and walk down a new path. You won’t be walking it alone.

We want to help you every step of the way.

Happy Mother’s Day Mom. I miss you

With Great Love

Mindy Millington

www.ForeverThin.me