Find Your Weight Loss Anchor

We need weight loss anchors that will keep us on the straight path we have set for ourselves.

A ship  coming in from the sea requires to be anchored in secure locations. Without an anchor, the ship cannot stand true. It would be lost at sea, never to find its way home.

We, too, need anchors in our lives.  Anchors can be found in every section of our lives. We find religious anchors in the deities we worship. I know that every decision I make always ends with an evaluation of “Am I keeping my eyes on Jesus Christ as I make this decision?” He is my life anchor.

We need weight loss anchors that will keep us on the straight path we have set for ourselves. An anchor is simply a time in our life or someone else’s that represents what we are capable of achieving. Every person is different and we all face a variety of circumstances that shape our realities.

We need to identify a time in our life that we were living with the ideal weight and anchor to those experiences. For those who do not have a personal experience of ideal weight, it gets a little trickier. You have to really use your imagination and identify a scenario in which you can imagine yourself at your ideal weight over and over again.

The best way I can explain this is with my story. I was raised as a couch potato gorging on junk food. I was terrible at sports and was always picked last. I hated PE time in school because it shown a light on how physically pathetic I was. The only spotlight in PE was the weight lifting room because I could at least hold my own – no special talents needed to perform. Obviously, I will not use my youth experiences as an anchor to latch on to other than the satisfaction that I felt in the weight room. I still prefer lifting weights today over aerobics or sports.

My next phase of life included a three year stint in the military right after high school. I was so out of shape that I couldn’t even do one pushup when I first went to basic training. Luckily there was some general somewhere that had faith in people like me because he had previously set up a special company to physically train couch potatoes and mama’s boys.

It was simply called Fitness Company and I was assigned to this unit where my primary duties were to enter “Lucifer’s Pit” training chambers daily and do about 8 hrs of physical training. Steam engines and wall pushups became my best friends. We were worked so hard, even grown men had tears in their eyes. Of course, women have a higher thresh hold of pain tolerance so we didn’t cry as long as the men did.

I spent about a month in this company before moving on to 8 weeks of basic training. When my training was over, I knew my crap didn’t stink and I was “billy-bad-butt”. I felt so empowered. I had done things that I never thought I could do – like Victory Tower. I was 5’8” and weighed only 135lbs of pure muscle.

Of course, I hated PT (physical training) so I had not developed lifelong habits from this. I hadn’t really changed my mindset deeply enough to make this change permanent. When my three years were up, the weight began piling back on until 5 babies later I weight 235lbs and not very much of it was muscle.

Finally, my heart’s passion led me to become a health coach where I found my core “why” to find my ideal weight and keep it. Using the practices I use to help other women, I fixed my mindset and developed a strategy to use my core “why” to my benefit in losing weight.

One of the things I had to do was find my weight loss anchor. This was easier for me than it might be for some women because of my military experience and results. My job was now to recall and tangibly experience as many positive things as I could from my military days. I went through storage and pulled out my dress uniform. It is hanging on my office wall right now – I see it everytime I look up from the computer screen. It is sized to fit the old me of 135lbs. I see my war badge sewed on the left sleeve that reminds me that I survived war – this gives me courage and strength.

After enduring 30 days in “Lucifer’s Pit” I have thoroughly memorized all the exercise movements that I once did to become 135lbs. I now use those same exercises when I work out. When I run, I call cadence to myself. When I look in the mirror, I see myself standing thin and strong in my uniform.

I have taken it a step further. I am becoming a runner. This is strange because I have always hated running and would be one of the first to fall out of formation back in the day. However, my body’s shape is perfect for developing a runner’s body. Running gives my body the type of aerobics needed to keep the weight off while anchoring to my weight loss success in the military. I am using this running training to prepare to run 5ks, half-marathons and full marathons with the goal of raising money for our wounded and homeless veterans.

My military experience is my weight loss anchor. I have tied my physical training to a past point in my life that was empowering while fulfilling my desire to serve others. This weight loss anchor has given me motivation beyond anything I ever thought I could drum up. It empowers me, focuses me, and fuels me. I don’t know how long it will take me to ever run a marathon and more than likely I will be one of the last ones to complete it. However, that isn’t the point. I will be running for those who may not be able to run for themselves and sacrificed so that our country might be free. I will be running for my pride of serving in the military and serving my country which I love with all my heart. My increased health and weight loss will only be a side benefit of a greater purpose.

I don’t know exactly how you will find your anchor. Each of you reading this is so different from the next. You have your own voice – your own story. I would love to help you find your anchor. We can work together when you sign up for a free “ForeverThin” session at

Victimhood’s Destruction

The past couple of weeks have been extremely stressful for me and it has affected my focus and willpower. I took my eyes off of my “why” and focused on everything that was going wrong in my life. I played the victim in my own mind movie. I wallowed in despair and wondered what light would be at the end of the tunnel. Even knowing all I know about mindset, focus, finding the “why” and the law of attraction – I still fell into the victimhood trap. It took my health coach to help me see what I did and helped me refocus on my “why” so I can stand strong again.

As part of my “recovery” from this period, I am increasing the amount of time I am reading helpful books. Right now I am reading “The Awakening Course” by Joe Vitale. You might have seen him on the movie “The Secret”. He is a miracles and marketing coach that has helped people all over the world evolve past the victimhood stage.

I was rereading the first stage section this morning where it talks about feeling like a victim. Every other time I had read this section, I told myself that I didn’t fit into this stage because I had made it past feeling like a victim. However, after being humbled, I see this section in a whole new light. I realized that I played this victimhood scenario like a fiddle these past 2 weeks. I was the leading lady of my own personal drama.

So, I am going to follow these 7 steps that he suggests to glide my way out of this victimhood trap and onto to success in reaching my goals.

  1. I am going to take 100% responsibility for whatever is going on in my life. It might not be my fault but it is my responsibility to deal with it and overcome it – while doing it with a smile on my face and focused on my “why”.
  2. I have been absorbing unconscious beliefs from my environment. Some of these beliefs have not served me well. I am going to be more conscientious about what I surround myself with. This means ignoring the controversial Facebook posts, reading better literature, ignoring negative media influences and finally not letting negative people influence me or my decisions.
  3. I am more powerful than I realize. I have power to crush Satan’s head given to me by my Heavenly Father. I have the power to build my life the way I desire it to be and I will not accept the great deceiver’s lies anymore.
  4. I will become aware of my thoughts. I will make a conscious effort to realize what I am thinking and guide those thoughts to positive emotion evoking thought patterns. I will do this by seeing myself outside of my thought process, looking in. I will gage my feelings at any given time to identify how my thoughts are leaning. If I feel good, powerful – then I know that I am having great thoughts. If I feel bad, worthless – then I know that I having negative, consuming thoughts and I need to take a moment to change my frequency.
  5. I am limitless. The only limits in my life are what I have placed on myself.
  6. My emotions fuel my manifestations. I have been feeding those destructive negative thoughts with strong “I don’t Want” feelings. All I have reaped is stuff I don’t want. I am going to focus on creating and feeling positive emotions to fuel what I do want while having faith that my God will bless me with what I need.
  7. I am going to let go of feeling needful. No longer are my “needs” going to dictate my life. I am going to start feeling abundantly immediately and feel the wondrous feelings associated with that.

I remember one weekend where everything lined up in my favor almost magically. It was the weekend I walked in my college graduation. We left our house in faith that all our needs would be met and every time I needed something, it almost appeared out of thin air – not really, but it seemed like that. I remember that high vibrational feeling that provided so many blessings that weekend. This is the feeling I desire to have in my life every day.

I want that feeling for you too. Can you imagine walking on complete faith not knowing how you are going to get the next thing you need but just knowing that God will provide? I imagine this is how the apostles in the New Testament felt as they left without purse or script.

I know that you can achieve the ideal weight by making mindset changes in your life. I know that once you quit allowing the adversary convince you that you are a victim, you will find your own power. This internal power will fuel what you need to focus on your “why” and do the menial activities that will provide you with the ideal body.

I pray that your life is blessed with abundance and that you find your way.

I say this in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Mindy Millington